What's your scene etiquette IQ?

Q: What's your scene etiquette IQ?

Eight questions on how you actually behave at a play party or a munch. Consent, negotiation, and not touching other people's rope.

Someone's gear is laid out on a bench. Beautiful rope. You...

Pick it up for a closer look -- it's right thereAsk whose it is, then ask if you may touch itAdmire it from where you're standingWait until they're back, then ask about it

How much do you agree before a scene starts?

Limits, safeword, injuries, and how we finishA safeword and a rough ideaLimits and a safewordWe'll read each other as we go

Two people are mid-scene across the room. You want a closer look.

Watch quietly from a respectful distanceMove in close for a better viewWatch briefly, then give them their spaceAsk a nearby friend what's happening

You ask someone to play. They say no.

Ask what would change their mind"No problem" -- and mean itSay fine, but feel a bit stung about itThank them for the clear answer and move on

A scene ends. What happens next?

Water, blanket, and stay until they're steadyCheck in, then let them find their own way downWhatever we agreed beforehand it would beScene's over -- back to the party

A newcomer looks lost by the door.

Say hello, point out the DM and where the water isLet them settle in on their own timeIntroduce them to a couple of friendly peopleAsk them straight away what they're into

You run into someone from the scene in a supermarket.

Nod, and let them decide whether to say helloBig greeting -- ask how last Saturday wentSay hi, keep it completely genericLook straight through them, just in case

Something you watched looked like it crossed a line.

Tell the DM or a host -- that's what they're forStep in and stop it yourselfNot my scene, not my businessCheck in with the bottom quietly afterwards